Tuesday, February 9, 2010
Matthew update
Update on the prayer request for Kaitlin's pom squad... THEY WON! First place in jazz and second place in pom at the UDA National competition in Orlando this past weekend. Way to go, girls!
Wednesday, February 3, 2010
Matthew is one year old today!
I can't believe it... my "baby" is one. He's definitely a toddler. But he'll always be my baby. Though we might adopt another child someday, Matthew is likely my last little bottle drinker, my last little rocking-chair snuggler, my last little one to cut his first tooth, my last little one to take his first steps, etc. Mark and I tried to make a deal with him when he was four months old that we would let him drink from a bottle forever if he would just stay that age forever. It didn't work.
Matthew's burn is healing nicely (I think I forgot to mention that he pulled a cup of fresh hot coffee off the table 10 days ago). He rarely resorts to crawling anymore as he is becoming more steady on his feet. He has eight teeth and is actively cutting his one-year molars (not a pleasant experience for any of us). Right now he's playing with today's toy of choice: two small, thin, plastic cutting boards. Attempts to remove those from his hands results in wailing and gnashing of teeth (well, really just high-pitched screams and cries and pounding of fists on the ground, an example of how I know that THIS child is our strong-willed child).
Matthew's one-year checkup is on Friday. I'll post his "particulars" after that visit, but my guess is that he is roughly 31" tall and weighs over 25 pounds. We're going to visit the NICU in a couple of weeks and I'm sure they'll be impressed by the size of this former preemie (he was born at 36 weeks and weighed 8lb 3oz, but still spent 11 days in the NICU and came home on Valentine's Day).
Happy birthday, sweet boy. I love you dearly!
(see post below for lots more photos)
Photos - birthday and goofing around
Tuesday, February 2, 2010
The view
Here's the view from our back porch. Aren't the trees pretty?
And stay tuned... tomorrow is Matthew's birthday (we already have pictures of his first cake, but I'll post them tomorrow).
Tuesday, January 26, 2010
Micah pulled Matthew down!
Allow me to describe the scene as there are no photos. Micah and Matthew were sitting and playing in the playroom. Matthew takes a toy from Micah, puts it on the train table, and stands up to play with it. Micah grabs Matthew's shirt, pulls him down, and grunts/growls at him. After I said a half-hearted "No, Micah," I turned around,
Wednesday, January 20, 2010
Friday, January 15, 2010
Haiti relief
We have chosen to send money to Bethany Christian Services. They run two orphanages in Haiti. All of the children and staff are safe. But I'm certain they will have many more children to add to their homes soon. The director of one of those orphanages did an interview on the Today Show on Wednesday.
James 1:27 tells us, "Religion that God our Father accepts as pure and faultless is this: to look after orphans and widows in their distress and to keep oneself from being polluted by the world."
Please do what you can.
(As a side note to my readers who don't have the best impression of evangelical Christians, please know that most of us disagree with Pat Robertson's assessment of Haiti's situation.)
Tuesday, January 12, 2010
Video - Matthew walking
A funny story about Matthew... Mark took the boys in for their flu booster shots in December. Micah cried (briefly, as always). Mark joked with the nurse that Matthew is so fat, he probably won't even feel it. Seriously... the child didn't even flinch!
Tuesday, January 5, 2010
Micah is 2 years old today!


Micah still receives about 90% of his nutrition through his feeding tube. He's taking small quantities of pureed baby food (stage 2 mostly) on a baby spoon. But he won't let any other item close to his mouth, including finger food or a cup. Even if he was taking in a huge volume of food orally, he couldn't go without the feeding tube because he will not allow fluids to pass his lips. We've been on the feeding tube journey for almost 2 years now. It stinks.
Micah is pulling to stand. He recently started moving his feet a bit more. I'm hoping to see him cruise the furniture more soon. He also recently started taking a few steps forward while holding (tightly) onto someone's hands. And just today, as he was standing holding onto my hand, he briefly and willingly let go. He was only able to stay standing for about 2 seconds before sitting down, but it's huge that he felt comfortable enough to let go (without me prying his fingers off my hand).
What have I left out? Just that this little boy brings a ton of joy to our lives. I will not say it's been an easy two years. And I'm still not in the camp of those who are actually glad that their child has Down syndrome (who knows... maybe I would be without all the medical junk... but maybe not then either... would I take away that extra chromosome if I could? Probably. Am I the only mom of a kid with designer genes who would? I'm pretty sure that I'm not, though expressing these feelings might get me blacklisted! Truthfully, though, I would really miss the amazing friends I've made in real life as well as in the blogosphere who share in our journey, and I'd miss out on some amazing life lessons that God has taught me and continues to teach me through Micah). I love this boy. And I wouldn't trade him, so don't ask. :-)
Happy birthday, my darling boy.
Saturday, January 2, 2010
Additional Christmas photos
Before he broke into the stash
Micah just loves getting Nathan hugs
Sweet boy
The tradition is to put baby Jesus in the manger on Christmas morning.Thursday, December 31, 2009
2009 Family Christmas Photo

This is as good as you get with three small boys. At least Nathan has a fun smile...
We are working on editing our Christmas letter in order to post it (tomorrow?). But, it's new year's eve and I'm having a bit of champagne. It's been a while since I haven't been pregnant on new year's eve!
Happy New Year, everyone! May your year be filled with fun and laughter. May you grow in wisdom. And may you know the peace that surpasses all understanding.
Tuesday, December 22, 2009
Sunday, December 20, 2009
Pics of Nathan

This was Nathan's preschool Christmas program. He was actually doing what he was supposed to do in this one. After this song was over, Nathan proceded to announce, "My tummy is VERY hungry."

This was taken as they were leaving the stage, right after he remarked, "I'm glad it's snack time now." We do feed the child. I promise.

I had to include this photo. He's wearing Mark's glasses from high school. Scary!
Thursday, December 17, 2009
Matthew's first steps




Sunday, December 13, 2009
2009 Christmas letter

Thursday, November 19, 2009
Back online
I'll try to post more soon, but I'm swimming in boxes. My dad arrives tomorrow. He leaves on Tuesday and Mark's parents come that day for Thanksgiving weekend. We're looking forward to seeing everyone, but I hope their expectations are low!
Wednesday, November 11, 2009
Thankful A to Z: F=Friends
Possibly coincidentally, there are a couple of friends with whom I have lost touch since getting Micah's diagnosis two years ago. But maybe it's not a coincidence. Maybe they don't know what to say. After a few months of reaching out to them, I gave up. If I think about it too much, I get sad.
But those friends aside... I have felt a crazy amount of love expressed by our friends near and far. Thick and thin... faithful friends. I'm not the easiest person to love. But there are some dear women in my life who have been there to listen, on the phone or in person. They've given advice, or simply been silent. They've cried with me. Laughed with me. Prayed with me (some at 5:30 on Monday mornings!). And never did they try to make me feel guilty for what I feel.
So, thank you, sweet friends, for your faithful support of me and our family during this journey we're on. I love you!
Tuesday, November 10, 2009
Thankful A to Z: E=Emily Perl Kingsley
Ms. Kingsley has a son with Down syndrome and she is a writer for Sesame Street. I'm fairly certain that she has had a major impact on the show having actors with disabilities.
I've actually heard of people not letting their children watch Sesame Street because it doesn't portray an accurate view of society (too "politically correct"). But I can't help but think that maybe, just maybe, one of Micah's future classmates will accept him as he is because she learned on Sesame Street that kids who are "different" aren't really that different after all.
Thankful A to Z: D=Digital photography


Saturday, November 7, 2009
Thankful A to Z: C=Children's Hospital

Friday, November 6, 2009
Thankful A to Z: B=Brothers


Thursday, November 5, 2009
Thankful A to Z - A = Andrea and Ann
I'm thankful for Andrea at Unfailingly Loved and Ann at MommySecrets for sharing words of encouragement with me. These are two faithful friends who love the Lord, encourage others, and are great moms. Love you, ladies!
(and by the way... Micah is 22mos old today, Matthew turned 9mos on 11/3. Micah pulled up to standing by using the sofa yesterday for the first time. Yay, Micah! And Matthew is creeping along the furniture now. Micah has two upper molars now in addition to his lower 2 teeth, and I think he's cutting a molar on the bottom now too... weird teeth introduction for him. Matthew just cut his first tooth on the top today, which hopefully explains his CRUDDY sleeping for the past week or so. Nathan, on the other hand, cannot blame teething as an excuse for his cruddy behavior of late. I'm hoping we can chalk that up to all the changes going on with the stress of moving and that the behavior issues will subside once we get settled in our new house. We close in a week!)
Saturday, October 31, 2009
Day 31 of 31 for 21 - Tigger, Pooh and Piglet

I think it's appropriate, on this last day of Down syndrome Awareness Month, to remind you that kids with Down syndrome are KIDS FIRST. They do everything that other kids do. They are offspring. They are siblings. They are friends. They can be Pooh bears.

(yes, I put a son in a pink costume, but Piglet is a boy and the name truly fits!)
Thursday, October 29, 2009
Day 29 of 31 for 21 - I got nothin'
Nope. Not today. Why? Because m3s (my 3 sons) are sleeping and I want to do the same.
Wednesday, October 28, 2009
Tuesday, October 27, 2009
Day 27 of 31 for 21 - New doctor for Micah

Micah saw a neurodevelopmental pediatrician today. She specializes in kids with Down syndrome. We arrived at 8:40 for his 8:45 appointment and we left the building at 12:00. The poor little guy didn't get much sleep last night (nor did I... Mark is away on business), so by 11:00 he was basically past tense.
Anyway, I LOVE LOVE LOVE this doctor. This is one of the reasons I was looking forward to moving here. She is a wealth of knowledge about Down syndrome. She truly read ALL of his records from all of his previous issues and asked me a lot of questions while we were there. And she was very encouraging too, which I definitely needed today. In general, she's very pleased with where Micah is developmentally, especially given all of the health issues he has had. I need that reminder sometimes. It's so easy for me to compare him to all of his buddies that we left in the Valley (who were all walking at age 2) and get sad about how he doesn't bear much weight on his legs yet. But I have to remind myself that most of them didn't spend over 3 months in the hospital their first year of life.
Therapies - We need to focus on eating and speech, and we will look into private services to supplement Early Childhood. He will walk eventually. But we need to get a good foundation for speech sooner rather than later. She feels good about the therapies available through our new school district (Birth to Three services are provided through the school system here in MN, rather than through the county, which is how WI runs Birth to Three). But she also recommended a private SLP (speech and language pathologist) who specializes in muscle-based oral motor skills (Talk Tools... anyone out there have kiddos working with this program?).
ENT - At Micah's August visit to the Feeding Clinic in MKE, he had a swallow study done. The SLP who did the swallow study said that Micah's tonsils weren't affecting his swallow, but her opinion was that they were blocking about 50% of his airway. Dr. M (who we saw today) looked in Micah's mouth (not an easy task, I might add) and she couldn't see his uvula because his tonsils were so big (though she did consider that she couldn't see his uvula perhaps because he was screaming!). She recommended we talk to ENT. It's possible that Micah's tonsils are causing him to breath through his mouth which might be why he doesn't sleep well. We'll see an ENT next week and get his opinion.
Cardiology - We received a referral to a cardiologist from Micah's cardiologist in the Valley. She has a good reputation here, but she's at "the U" (meaning, she's at University of MN rather than at Children's Hospital... there's also Gillette Children's... confusing around here with so many options). Dr. M thought it would be better for Micah to see a cardiologist at Children's since he would likely have most of his care there (i.e. ENT). But the U is known for cardiac surgery. And I do want Micah to be seen by an ophthalmologist at the U (a recommendation from Dr. G in Madison). And since Micah might need eye surgery next year... ugh. Decisions.
Orthotics - Micah was measured for orthotics today. Many kids with Down syndrome have very loose ligaments in their ankles and that can cause pronation. Micah is no exception. So we're getting him some Sure Steps to help support his ankles while he stands. I've heard other parents say that their kids were much more confident in the standing position after getting their Sure Steps. Micah's will arrive in about 2 weeks and we'll go back to have them fitted at that time. For those of you whose kids already have them and you're wondering what pattern we chose, Micah will be wearing the stylish "Traffic Soup" pattern. :-)
That's all the news that's fit to print.
Sunday, October 25, 2009
Day 25 of 31 for 21 - the Garcia's
- They're a military family.
- They live in TN (we used to live there too!).
- They have 4 children (2 boys and 2 girls) whose names all begin with K and have 7 letters.
- One of their girls has Down syndrome (she's their 3rd child).
- That same girl has conquered leukemia and had major surgery to repair her atlantoaxial instability.
- They're very close to bringing home girl #3 through an international adoption (Eastern Europe).
- This little girl also has Down syndrome.
Did you know that in many countries, many children with Down syndrome are orphaned and institutionalized and basically left to die? I think it's incredibly cool that families like the Garcia's take a leap of faith and bring a child home who might otherwise die young, nevermind receive a mother's love.
There is an amazing organization called Reece's Rainbow that enables you to help save some of these children. Not everyone is called to adopt , but we've all been encouraged by God to care for orphans (James 1:27 - "Religion that God our Father accepts as pure and faultless is this: to look after orphans and widows in their distress and to keep oneself from being polluted by the world.").
If you feel led, you might be interested in the following video (be forewarned... it's 12 minutes long... and you'll need some tissues). I couldn't get it to link well, so you'll have to click here.
And it you'd like to help the Garcia's bring Kellsey home, please visit their adoption blog and contribute (though I think they have to make their blog private soon since they're leaving soon for Eastern Europe).
Saturday, October 24, 2009
Day 24 of 31 for 21 - Pray for Polly
Friday, October 23, 2009
Day 23 of 31 for 21 - AV Canal
Why is atrioventricular canal a concern?
If not treated, this heart defect can cause lung disease. When blood passes through both the ASD and VSD from the left side of the heart to the right side, then a larger volume of blood than normal must be handled by the right side of the heart. This extra blood then passes through the pulmonary artery into the lungs, causing higher pressure than normal in the blood vessels in the lungs.

Day 22 of 31 for 21 - an artist's game
(if you're reading this in email, then link here for the video)
Wednesday, October 21, 2009
Tuesday, October 20, 2009
Save the Date!
Curious about Halloween signs? See the following video:
And just for kicks, here are some Thanksgiving signs:
Day 20 of 31 for 21 - Stir Crazy, sick baby, Micah eating
Matthew went through a scream fest last night and finally ended up sleeping from about 10-4. He's on antibiotic #2, which he received on Friday evening after 5 days on amoxicillin did not do the trick. As of this morning, his ear looks better than it did on Friday, so we're hoping that this 10-day course on augmentin will do the trick. Way to make friends with the new pediatricians after only being here a week.
Micah is eating well, as long as it's baby cereal mixed with a fruit. He's not doing well with anything else right now. I'm not sure if it's the flavor or the texture or the consistency. But he took 6 ounces of it tonight! He's probably take a 4-ounce container of stage 2 bananas too, but he doesn't need the constipation assistance!
Monday, October 19, 2009
Day 19 of 31 for 21 - Peter Becht
My favorite part might be his quote: "Down syndrome doesn't mean I'm stupid. It means it takes me longer to learn the same things you do."




















































